Thursday, October 22, 2015

The Big "O" - It Starts in Your Head

So you want a mind blowing orgasim? Well my dear sister, it starts by thinking about sex.  Experts confirm that we women are more likely to have an orgasim if we think about sex before we engage in the act.  Your mind has a profound effect on your body.  Thinking about sex (with your husband) will prime your body for the big event.  Yes, it's okay to think about sex (with your husband).  He's the only one you're allowed to fantasize about.  You belong to him, and he to you.

Start by slowing down and focusing on the details.  In our crazy-hurried-lives we sometimes have to force ourselves to stop and think.  So stop and visualize sex (with your hubby).  Think of what feels good, and where it feels good.  By taking time to think you prep your body and create a sense of anticipation which will only increase your climax potential!

Tuesday, October 20, 2015

The Big "O"

Did you know that the clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings, while the penis only has 4,000?  Did you know that the clitoris has no physical function other than to provide pleasure?  To me these facts are confirmation of this fact:  God gave married couples the gift of sex not only for procreation, but for our pleasure.  

Through the history of the church many have come to erroneous, unbiblical conclusions about sex.  Namely, that the sole purpose of sex is strictly for procreation.  Some even believed that if a man enjoyed sex with his wife, it was a sin.  Science has now given us the details of the Creator's design and guess what? He designed us for pleasure.  If he designed us for pleasure, then by golly we need to name it and claim it! We should not ignore the gifts the creator has given us.  In his infinite wisdom he designed us to mutually pleasure each other to further strengthen our bonds of monogamy in marriage.  

If then, God in his wisdom, designed women to receive pleasure, isn't orgasim the full expression of that pleasure?  Perhaps you've never experienced The Big "O" and wonder what the fuss is all about.  To be sure some women are perfectly content with not having orgasim and that is fine and dandy.  But for those of you who want to explore, enhance your lovemaking,  and lay claim to all the pleasure you were designed for, stay tuned to this series on The Big "O"!

Friday, October 9, 2015

So what's the hold up?

"If sex is the one thing that would make the difference for him, the one thing that really makes him feel loved, why not make it a priority? Why is it so much easier to make his favorite meal or buy him an elaborate birthday gift than it is to meet his sexual needs?"

We, as women, invest sooo much time and energy into all sorts of things (i.e. hobbies, sports,  upcycling palates and mason jars) but when it comes to investing in our man, too often we fall short...

Wednesday, October 7, 2015

How is your husband's sex drive God's gift to you?

"Fulfilling your husband sexually encompasses so much more than the physical act. It means inviting his sexuality into your marriage, embracing all that he is, hopes, and desires. It includes wanting to fully understand him and welcoming the sexual appetite that expresses his masculinity. It involves striving with him through weakness and temptation and covering his fears and failures. No magazine, no coworker, no porn site can be this teammate and confidante for your husband. This is your place; this is your power; this is your gift. Unwrap it."

Why is sex a relational need for your husband?

"Have you ever noticed that your husband seems to treat you differently after sex? He's more attentive (perhaps after a brief nap), more affectionate, and more appreciative? This isn't just your imagination. He is biologically wired to bond with you after sex. He literally feels emotionally closer to you after orgasm — and that's not just a line!"

I am constantly amazed by God's design in his creation.  The science behind sex and bonding only confirms this beautiful design.  Read and be awed by our creator....

How is sex a spiritual need for your husband?

"Your husband depends on you to be his partner in his battle against sexual temptation. Although you aren't responsible for his actions, you are a key component in his victory. You're the only woman in the world whom your husband can look at sexually without compromising his integrity!"

I think all too often we wives forget this.  Read on to remind yourself of this truth .......

Monday, September 28, 2015

Why is sex an emotional need for your husband?

"You cannot compartmentalize your husband's sexuality. You cannot love him as a husband but reject him sexually. From his perspective, his sexuality is a central part of who he is as both a man and a husband."

Let's try to wrap our female brains around this.....

Friday, September 25, 2015

Why is sex a physical need for your husband?

" A man's sexuality has a tremendous impact on his emotional, marital, and spiritual well-being."

Want to understand why sex is a physical need for your husband? Focus on the Family has a great article that explains it very well.

Sunday, July 21, 2013

Redbook's 25 Reasons Why Married Sex is Better

A great list of 25 reasons why married sex is better.  Even non-Christians see the wisdom in God's design of sex within marriage.

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Learning from the Song of Solomon - Part 2

"Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth" Song of Solomon 1:2

Bible scholar, Tremper Longman says:

"The first poem is a passionate exclamation on the part of the woman, who desires union with the man.  The woman takes the initiative here and in many of the poems of the Song.  The aggressiveness of the woman in the Song undermines our stereotypes of ancient gender roles and instructs those today who look to the Bible for guidance in matters of relationships."